Monday, November 24, 2014

The Slippery Slopes

The Slippery Slopes - The Occasional Adventures of a Hermit

Have you ever watched those shows on tv about hoarders and thought to yourself "How does it get that bad?"

I totally understand how it gets that bad. I admit that I'm a hoarder, but I'm not at the level of needing a drastic and overly dramatic television show intervention about it. But those hoarders on tv started somewhere. That somewhere is probably very similar to where I'm at now.

Actually, I think more people are in the same place I am than admit it openly. Have you Googled organization tips lately? Or looked at Pinterest? Or hung around Blogland for longer than 10 minutes? If the majority of people aren't hoarders to some degree then they're doing a damned good job of pretending to be.

From my point of view, there's two problems that stand in the way of un-hoarding: emotional attachments and the feeling of being overwhelmed. 

I've been trying to start packing in preparation for our move in a few months and I tell myself that I'm going to downsize and get rid of stuff. But then as I'm sorting I develop intense, life-long emotional attachments to whatever it is that I'm considering getting rid of. I will drop dead on the spot if I get rid of it. Or at least it feels that way. 

I know in the rational part of my brain that I don't truly need the item and won't drop dead and it won't be the end of the world if I get rid of it, but that emotional part  of my brain screams a lot louder and a lot longer than the rational part. 

As for feeling overwhelmed, it's just constant. I'm overwhelmed by the quantity of stuff that I own. And by the prospect of having to move it all. But the more I try to organize the more that I feel disorganized which then leads to the need to organize more but I feel more disorganized. 

See the cycle? It's never-ending and feels like there's no hope in sight. What's the point of trying to organize when I won't get anywhere with it? 

The hoarder's mind can be a cruel, vicious place.

Original photo by antpkr via

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Connect the Flaws

Connect the Flaws - The Occasional Adventures of a Hermit
I'm a hoarder.

I'm disorganized.

I'm always behind schedule.

I'm a procrastinator.

I have body image issues.

I'm fat.

I constantly feel like a failure.

I'm a pessimist.

I'm antisocial.

I'm unhappy with where I'm at in my life.

I'm unhappy in general.

And it's entirely overwhelming to feel all of this, all the time. I know that I have positive attributes but sometimes it's nearly impossible to look in the mirror and see them. I'm not the only person who feels this way. Judging from the amount of organization, scheduling, health and happiness tips out there on the internet, I would say that a majority of people feel the same way that I do.

Unfortunately, there's no magic pill to take to make it all go away (although some people will try to convince you otherwise). No fairy godmother is going to make everything all better. Even though there's entire industries built around the concept of a Quick-Fix-Yourself-New, we have to do it ourselves over time.

I'm tired of looking in the mirror and only seeing flaws. It's time that I start changing the things that I don't like and become the person that I want to be. Even if I'll always be a work in progress.

Photo Credit: marcolm via

Monday, November 17, 2014

Welcome to the New Look

If my tour doesn't line up properly with the sidebar, CLICK HERE to make it line up.

New colors based off a photo of a cut up pink rose on a grey background I found using Pinterest. I tried to streamline the sidebar and take out anything that is unnecessary.  Most of it should be self explanatory but let's do a tour anyways.

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First up, a picture of me followed by a short biography. I tried to be witty and funny in the bio, hopefully it comes across that way instead of as stupid. 

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Click here to email me. This address is specifically for this blog (I have one for each blog) but you can also use it just to say hi if you want. Or to ask a question. Or send me a funny joke. Whatever. 

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Use the categories to find more posts that interest you and the archives if you're wanting to find post in a chronological order.

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Follow the blog! You can copy & past the RSS feed link into the blog reader of your choice (I use Feed Demon) or you can get an email directly from me whenever I post. Not sure if I'll be sharing the actual post or if I'll just be sending around a link to the post. If you sign up and have an opinion on the matter, let me know. In the future there may also be extra goodies for the email subscribers. Update: You have your option when you sign up to pick full post or reminder now.

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Links to my other two blogs. The Writing Hermit is where I'll be posting my adventures and mishaps with writing. The Crafty Hermit will be where I share my craft and DIY stuff.

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And if all that is not enough me to satisfy you, here's links to other places to interact with me.

And in an effort to take up some of the empty space before the next tour tidbit, I'll tell you that I'm planning on posting on Mondays and Thursdays. Posts will probably go up in the afternoon since that's when I have set aside to use as my blog time. I only have about a two hour window though and sometimes life happens so if I don't get the time to write a post, I just won't post. I know that totally goes against all the blogger rules but that's just going to be the way it is.

And yes, I've reverted almost all of my previous posts to drafts so that they no longer appear on the blog. Sorry if this broke any of your links, but they didn't fit with what I wanted for the blog.

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And here's a logo for the blog if you want to show me some love. Feel free to take it to use as a link back to my blog. Or pin it. Or whatever.

That's it. Leave a comment. Send me an email. Subscribe. And be here Thursday for the next post!

Friday, November 14, 2014

Yes, I'm screwing with the layout and the way things look around here again. Things will look stupid and really bad until I'm done.